It's not that I've been through it, but was rather close to someone that had. They just hadn't any children. I asked some of those questions from the perspective of knowing what they went through. It was a no choice seemed the best scenario. Parents hadn't divorced, however, yet shaped the dynamics of the marriage. Manic depression was more like it well over narcissism.

My parents had divorced. It was messy in its own way. I was also 9/10. Through therapy for myself as an adult, narcissism was tossed out there about my dad. He doesn't think through things the way you do or aforementioned individual. Concern for causing emotional distress towards others is an important fact.

As far as healthy relationships, if passion is a need, that's an important piece of your marriage missing. Passionate discussions are helpful and beneficial to those in long term relationships, it creates a sense of connection. Devoting time and effort fuels the flames. Being somewhat on the same page does matter.