sister, I think it is so wonderful you were able to go to 2X per week after your therapist's return. It sounds like it allowed you to work through the separation and reconnect so much faster. I applaud his flexibility and how he was able to do what helped his client, rather than stick to some sort of set schedule or rule (thou shalt allow clients only one session per week).

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He's such a regular guy.

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I love that comment. It reminds me of my T. I had a session yesterday with a new person (not replacing my T), and it was my first time meeting her. I had a favorable impression of her immediately, because when she came to get me in the waiting room, she had a sweater on with this blouse underneath with a Peter Pan collar, and the collar was totally wrinkled (no ironing for this T!), and it was kind of poking out of the sweater unevenly and in the back, the tag was showing. I loved her for that! Just a regular guy (only she was a girl, lol).

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I feel so much calmer, so cared for.

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That is wonderful. I hope you can get this feeling to persist between sessions. Maybe you can keep up the 2X per week until you feel more ready to go back to 1. Is your T pressuring you to drop back down to 1 or is this coming from you? I was at 1X per week for a long time, then I went to once every other week for a while. Now I am back to 1X per week. At this week's session, I made T schedule me out over a month in advance, every week. I was not shy about displaying my need, lol. He has never batted an eye when I wanted to go every week or every other week or whatever. The feelings of the frequency I "should" be seeing him seem to come all from me. (I have never requested 2 sessions per week.)