I told my one [sort-of] friend about what a fiasco taking my dog for grooming had been and she just stared at me. She didn't nod her head to acknowledge what i was telling her or say something benign like, "That's too bad" or anything of that nature.

I've noticed that before. When i tell people about stuff that makes me angry, they just clam up. Just when i need a kind word the most, they go silent. This quasi-friend is borderline too.

Why do people do this? Are they trying to discourage my passion? Are they overwhelmed? Do they think i'm having a huge reaction? Do they think just listening is enough? Does this friend only want to hear about fun stuff, like my mom who used to squash any attempt at talking over problems? Is she just a fair-weather friend?

I mean, it's only humane to make some sort of response when someone confides in you!

Geez, what a huge trigger for me. I did a CBT exercise about it and now i am all riled up thinking what a b&*ch this friend is, what a dipsh)t loser. It's not the first time this has happened to me. It happened with another sort-of friend and i was so stung that time too.

Anyone got any insight?