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Originally Posted by Artchic528
I'm only human, and I have needs. One of them is satisfying my monstrously high libido. I almost let it get me into a dangerous situation (I was lucky that the guy stopped communication altogether) and now I want to tame it, if possible so as to not let it take me over and confuse this current guy I'm talking to. I guess I need a way to keep a hold of myself and not rush into being intimate right away despite my body screaming for that intimacy. In other words, I want to think clearly, with my brain, and not my libido.
How do I go about this? Do I distract myself? Keep busy? I don't want him to think I'm not interested though, so I can't keep it completely quelled. I need some sort of way to lessen it's pull on me I guess, but not to eliminate it completely.
Any suggestions?
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First two suggestions I have, communicate this that you are interested in him, and make it clear you are that you feel it's better for you that holding off sex at the moment is healthier.
I completely feel you on this though.
My high libido too gets me into trouble I get screaming wanting it badly and I unintentionally put off the wrong impression.
So I go out and do dates usually avoid taking someone over to my place most of the time. Make time for each other put effort of your expectations and make sure he understands and listens to this.
I am not doing well like you do and I'm starting relationships later after I move, but it makes sense that I succumb to this because I crave intimacy because of grief and I'm imposing my issues on them when I want to be better so I just try to do something else with the other person till it's appropriate with trust to go forth with that.