After I escaped my marriage I was later on able to analyze the whole 33 years....& realized I wasn't the one who failed. It was amazing to have a psychologist tell me that my reactions to what I had experienced WERE NORMAL to the situations I ended being forced to put up with....starting with my dysfunctional parents.....I was reacting to my environment something the environment would never acknowledge because they were sure they were JUST FINE.

Interesting being out of the marriage & both my parents have died, I can objectively observe the people all around me & it just magnifies how dysfunctional ALL the people in my life had been. It's taken me years to learn how to interface with normal people but the PEACE is amazing.

Most if the time we aren't who failed but it was the environment, the people who were around us that failed even when it's something they couldn't possibly have helped themselves.

Don't be hard on yourself.