Sorry for your dilemma, Artchic. Sex is important. It can be a healing thing (cures headaches for me). It can add years to your life. A strong libido is healthy.

That said, I'm not sure how to advise you. My story strays far from yours. I come from another time b4 home PC's. I met my husband very young (1974) , and have remained married to that special man for over 40 yrs. I'm 57, he is 62 and our passion never wanes.

I wish for you to run into a guy IRL that you can love and he love you back. Online/telephone dating must be grueling. I believe it takes direct frequent contact F2F to really get to know a person. (IMO) And when that happens, when you have someone you love and trust (and vice versa), your libido will be an asset, not a problem. I really wish the type of relationship I enjoy will come your way. Here's hoping you find it.