I don't really know Artchic nor am I familiar with any previous posts. I must say, from an outsider's view of this thread, that a few posts seem quite off topic. I did not see anything from OP that stated she wanted casual sex. It is clear to me that she is asking for ways to restrain her purely physical desires, as a means of avoiding casual sex. Even though I feel dragging previous quotes out of context from other threads is deplorable, I only see affirmation of OP's desire to not have casual sex in those quotes also. So my question is, where the heck is the contradiction? I believe each thread should be an entity in itself, and not be used as an opportunity to drag up one's past quotes. That seems clearly aimed to take out one's own feelings about the OP, which should not be done in an open thread. I think such matters belong in a private chat or message. I also found that quoting a simple word's definition was meant to be (and is) insulting, and going way overboard to express one's negative view of the OP. Quoting a definition of a word when OP obviously knows what the word means can only be construed that it was meant to be offensive. I don't know why one does that. The problems one may have with an OP should not be aired publicly, period.

Here is a definition to ponder when we are posting to a thread:
Supportive -
1. giving support.
2. providing sympathy or encouragement:
3. providing additional help, information, etc.

Isn't that what we are supposed to be doing on PC? Helping to uplift others? Not bringing them down further? I was taught by my mom that if you can't say something positive, then don't say anything at all. Wise mom!

Best wishes for you Artchic