Let me add to this, keeping in mind that I'm still amicable with my ex and his family. His brother has a wife that did have a breakdown of sorts. His brother was supportive of her in ways that he needed to be. She needed to live with a close friend for a small amount of time, as she addressed herself in counseling. He made certain, that as a family we all recognized she was in crisis and didn't he weap realizing how much pain she was in. He took the realm in parenting their children, while she focused on recovery. They, as a couple, and as a family worked with her counselors. They just celebrated another wedding anniversary, reaching close to 30 years. He was asking, what do I need to do? Not writing her off. Not playing games. Maybe he's not perfect, but he's as committed as a husband that I can think of.