I'm sorry. I know I wasn't very helpful, but I wanted to try. I have a friend who is basically a single parent in her marriage (including with one special needs child) because her husband is a truck driver, and when he's home, he just wants to rest and have dinner on the table. It sounds very frustrating. I know it's easy for me to say, "Leave for a bit," or whatever, but I can't say I would just do that. I don't know. In any case, I am thinking of you and wish you well.