I see is as kinda like fly paper, or sugar water attracting bees. They have made their personalities so nice to attract the people & then they turn around & hurt them for what ever reason they seem to have.....sometimes they may not even know that this is what they are doing....others....(in my opinion), know exactly what they are planning all along.

It 's just like scam artists too, they have to attract their victims & they sure wouldn't be able to if they didn't make themselves look so good.

This might be part of the answer,
Debbie