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Old May 22, 2016, 07:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Artchic528 View Post
Exactly. I've never had the luxury of feeling wanted and loved and trustful of someone.
Those take time to develop, at least if you want a more genuine connection as opposed to just an infatuation/lustful one (personally, for me, I tend to go for something in between. I don't need to feel loved to first have sex with a new partner. But I do need to feel wanted and accepted).

As he is inexperienced, keep reminding yourself of that. Let him set the pace - he will likely be feeling a lot of anxiety and pressure. If you go too fast you might scare him away as it will increase the pressure for him to perform.

Also remind yourself that you want to feel loved and trustful. Trust is built with time. Love takes time to form.

Basically, just exercise self control and respect for his level of experience.
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