Wow that's tough. I worked in a fabric store and one time a guy called and outright asked if I had fabric for baby diapers. He said they were for him to wear and that is was for his fetish, and that's why he wanted to specially make them. Some people just don't feel as inhibited by their desires and disclosing them to others. It will make finding a relationship a lot harder if you are specifically interested in acting out your fetish with them. There is no point in denying that. Finding a person in day to day life and hoping that will want that would be difficult. Looking to a dating or chat site for people with alternative lifestyles/interests might be beneficial.