Oh okay, now reading ALL the posts I see that masturbation has been suggested.

Artchic, screw what everyone is saying. Here's me and my ex's story.

We dated online (didn't meet) for 2 years. We started at first as just being friends on Twitter and following each other's adventures. When I eventually moved closer to him for a job (12 hours away) he came down to visit. The first time we met we said there was no pressure and there was no sex tied to the visit. Except when we first met it was like magic. ANd yes, mind blowing sex was had. We did the long distance thing for years, staying tied at the hip via text messages and visiting a few times a year. Eventually we just couldn't keep it up, after about 3 more years and called it quits. There are other reasons we broke up as well but the distance ended up being the main reason.

My point is that you can have a completely meaningful relationship with someone online, meet them in person, have great sex, and continue to have a meaningful relationship. If one of us had wanted to break down and move to the city of the other, we probably would've gotten married but I guess neither of us was willing to do that. (Part of the problem was that I was in Montana and he was over the border in Canada, and neither of us could imagine starting our careers over in a new country as well as city.)

So get to know this guy really well online and meet when you feel it's right. Online relationships can be successful, and they don't grow like IRL relationships although they should grow to real life eventually.

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