Thanks, Lost in the Woods. I agree, I don't think my bf really wanted to be insulting, I think he was just trying to say something comforting to me, although the result turned out to be very bad. Especially because I still have a hard time calling it "abuse", after many years of therapy.

The therapist I'm talking about wasn't that bad, I think she just was an inexperienced EMDR practitioner. Otherwise she was actually quite good, though not exceptional. Normally she did MBCT - Mindfulness Base Cognitive Therapy. She was quite good at that.

I hope things get back to normal soon. Thanks for reading.