communication is key but I don't get the idea of having to "keep busy" and distract yourself for this reason: If I need to distract myself from making a bad choice to get overly involved sexually with a new partner, should I really be involved right now anyway? come on people, if you can't handle being in a relationship and have to fight with yourself to avoid making a bad choice and to work on things slowly you're just simply... not ready for a relationship and need to take time independently to figure out why you're so easily led into such situations.

I'd recently had a female online that I've connected with and she's voiced how she wants to be involved with me in a relationship. It's long distance, she's a number of years younger than me. With her she was pretty quick to start talking about sex early on. To be honest, I feel quite ready for a relationship (although not sure it should be her yet) because I stopped her the other day and said "can we please not make the focus on sex so much?" Years ago there was no way I could have made that decision which is why I say what I did above. I do not want to have to "distract" myself from sex, I'd rather spend time focusing on what matters with this person. On top of that I'm pretty sure she's not the right person as the jump to sex was so quick. Even as a guy makes me feel kind of cheap.