Believe me, you weren't being either judged or ridiculed, but your posts do make it sound like this has happened only twice. As for the line you object to, you raise pretty much that same concern in your initial post. At least as I read it.

If you just want to get the thoughts out, please say so, and people will forebear from commenting.

And again I stress: you were being neither judged nor ridiculed. I don't think any less of you from this thread, and I certainly haven't made fun of you. I apologize if it came across that way, but it was far from my intent, which was to clarify things I didn't understand and reassure you (since I imagine you are not doing anything at all to make her uncomfortable, and since it is entirely possible that she wears the pendant more often than you end up seeing it, just takes it off earlier).