I also feel I almost always forget to ask questions back. And I always wonder if that makes me come across as self-centered.

When someone asks me "How was your weekend." I always feel someone is attacking my comfort zone.

To me, if someone asks a question like that, they have through it through and they have a goal. Be it that they are trying to be inclusive, or they are trying to know you better and they are honestly interested.

I can't tell if other people just do it because they can't help themselves and they are social creatures. Do they even listen and file away the answer? Do they realize I think about why they ask what they asked?

What should you ask? Whatever you are interested in the most. But then again, maybe you should ask that whatever you think she is most interested in in talking about.

Maybe to truly connect, you need to figure out their self-image and their internal values. What do they pride themselves on. Then, compliment them where it hits home for them the hardest.

How? No clue.