i can relate to this. i know my T has a mental illness. 2 yrs ago his wife told my friend he was "going through something". my friend told me. of course i freaked out wondering if he was OK. i texted him a long text explaining my fears and asking him if he is all right. he sent me back a text that said yes he is ok and that he isn't going to abandon me. i wasn't sure what that meant, the abandon part. about a month later we were talking on the phone and he told me he was resigning from the program i met him in. he then told me he was going to still see me in a private practice he was planning to open up. so the abandon thing made sense to me at that moment. i felt so relieved.

i can totally understand the concerns you have especially when it's coupled with parental transference for the therapist. hopefully your MC understands this as well (which i think he does, from what i've read about him). i hope he responds to you soon