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Originally Posted by Mondayschild
Lol. Getting back into the "dating" scene has to be tough. A friend of mine, who is very socially awkward is on some dating sites and he is always frustrated that it starts off so well and then dims out. So I asked to look at some of the emails and he sent them all to me. The one theme was present, they would ask him questions and he would answer and go into detail. If there was a theme to all of the emails it was that he wasn't asking questions or returning the interest. They ran out of things to ask because it wasn't a conversation, more of an interrogation due to the nature of the correspondence.
I could lie and give you a happy ending to this, but I won't. He didn't take the advice and things continue continue on in the same pattern.
Right now she could very well be interested in you being she knows more about you. But you don't know much about her.
Maybe try something a little easier. When you see her, give her a nice smile and ask how how she is? . Her responses likely will give you questions to build off of.
#Life is a beautiful lie#
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Thank you for this, although internally I know that my situation and how I am perceived may be very similar to your friend (answering but not really having a two way conversation) it helps to hear it. It is hard to figure out how to go about pushing the conversation, it doesn't come naturally but I know that I need to if I am to glean any kind of information related to her level of interest.
As for the asking how she is, I have run that through my mind over and over then the time comes when I'm there and nothing comes forth from this mouth of mine. Seems to refuse haha.
Another thing that I thought of from your response here is how she has asked me how I'm doing sometimes. The casual "...and how are you today?" seems to me to be more friendly than the stamped out "hey, how are ya?" that is said to every other customer but I know my brain is trying very hard to hope for something and is noticing every little thing.
Yeserday I went in and she was walking with drinks to other customers and walked past me and it was like a "oh hi!" with a big smile as she passed me. Anyway... ty for all your input, I am trying here. hopefully will gain some courage.