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Originally Posted by RoseTiger
Bill3,
The only person who comes to mind is my cousin who says she is bi, but since my biological mother disowned me, I have no connection to her side of the family, and I now live on the opposite side of the country from them with my dad and stepmom.
The only person I know for certain would stick by me if I came out is my older stepsister. We're very close, and she has informed me during private conversations that she doesn't share the rest of our families veiw on homosexuals.
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Well I'm a mother and I have a feeling their love for you will over-ride any of their homophobia - although I can't promise it I would guess it's very likely. I have seen this happen with a friend of mine, who has since come to accept her daughter's same sex partnership (which has lasted longer than her opposite sex marriage!) She freely states that her daughter's same sex partner was the best thing that ever happened to her daughter.
I think a lot of prejudice comes from not personally knowing people from the group shunned, it's much easier to make sweeping generalisations when you don't know the people themselves. It's just a shame that you may be the first homosexual person they have knowingly come across, it makes it harder for you to make that leap in coming out.
I don't really have any advice as such, just wanted to remind you the love parents have for their kids is a pretty strong thing.
That said, the decision to come out should be entirely yours, and in your own time. In the meantime I'd suggest gently shutting down any homophobic rants with something like "That's your opinion but I don't share it", firmly but politely. You are an adult and entitled to have and express your own opinions, you may want to add something along the lines of "You brought me up to say what I believe is right", which might make them think a little hopefully.
Blessings to you, be strong.