I feel a great deal of rage and resentment to the friends and family that 'rushed' to the side of my abusive ex when I left. He actually is an actor so the 'poor me' routine he poured on was apparently quite convincing. I kept mum about what I endurred while it was happening but still, the inappropriate behaviour he publically did was alarming enough that people ought to have questioned his very morality and lack of respect for me. It is alarming and painful that 6 years later my friends - and family - are still friends with him. But that is the type of person he is. Extremely charismatic, he is surrounded by people who want to go along for the ride. Jusgement seems to have gone out the window for them. Obviously it is I who is the one being judged.