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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick
My T said these same things during our final sessions and as hard as it is, its true. You still have time to learn how to internalize her and have the love in your heart. Enjoy the time you have with her. I think its good she is trying to wean you off of needing her so much. Go with that. My T did not do that and I had to do it myself over night and its not easy and I am really struggling. Its better to have your T's help with that. Trust me.
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I'm sorry that you are struggling so much, Cinnamon. You are grieving and there's no easy answer except to go through it. I will try to what you say, to cherish the time I have with my T, but at the same time, see if I can let go just a little. Thank you, and I hope it gets easier for you.
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Originally Posted by ~Christina
I think your T is being honest in this relationship. Nothing is forever. Except our memories and the things you have learned from her or any loved one. Its good that you are able to voice your fears and shelve some tougher decisions a few months down the road .
My T is 68 and he many times has told me he would never just drop me, I had this fear for the first couple years , unfounded but it was there..
But the reality is a person can be here today and gone tomorrow. I know that he is going to retire one day , he has no current plans to.. but who knows. I really was upset about this last year so we discussed it many times.. I have learned so much from him about myself and how strong I really am.. and the best thing I can do when we are no longer seeing each other for whatever reason is to honor the work we did and continue using the skills that he helped me learn that has been a turning point in my life.
There will never be another " Richard " for me. Sure there are many of T's can and will be helpful to me in the future.
I dont often respond to your threads but I have followed along .. Rainbow you have grown so much in so many ways. don't lose sight of all the gains you have made and how much stronger you are because of the hard work you have put into your time with your T. She certainly has helped you ... but you did the work.. the greatest T's in the world cant make someone better themselves... Pat yourself on the back 
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What a beautiful post, Christina. Thank you very much!! It means a lot for someone to notice my growth because I only see a glimmer of it. Your T sounds really competent and special. I hope he is around for many more years.