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Originally Posted by Anxiousvalkyrie
I've actually tried to serous restrict my contact with her. My T and I both agreed a while back that it was in my best interest to do so. I don't ever call her initiate text conversations with her. I don't even like or comment on her Facebook posts.
The problem is...she is constantly contacting me. She texts me all the time, comments on everything I post on social media (which has led me to quit posting very often) and things like that. If I don't answer she starts texting me incessantly until I answer, and if I continue to ignore her she calls my mom and works her into s frenzy that something must be wrong with me so she will contact me to find out why I'm not responding.
I've told my mom I need space from her becaus it's hard for me to cope with the stress she causes me and her default response is 'oh she just cares about you, you can't cut her off'...and then I get the guilt about moving to Europe and 'leaving her behind'.
So despite my current efforts I can't seem to cut communications, even though I know it's in my best interest.
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I advise block her on your phone, block her on social media, change your e-mail addresses and phone numbers if you have to,make sure she has no way to communicate with you and have no real communication if you can!Tell your mum you are doing it and don't want to know your sister or her issues and that she is a drain on your energy and if she calls mum to say something is wrong cos sis won't answer tell mum to ignore her.Cut her off no matter what your mum says and don't feel guilty ,if your mum says you can't cos she cares ,tell mum tough cos I don't care about my little sis anymore!Honestly it will happen eventually ,you may as well get the relief straight away instead of suffer by the time you realize this ***** is out to drain you of all energy!