Hello,
I am here because my husband, possibly soon to be ex-husband, has suffered from depression for the past 30 years. He has turned to heavy drinking and drugs for most of that time. This past Mothers Day he said he wants a divorce because he is mentally and physically done. He said that I deserve better and that he done with everything. He has stated that it is killing him to leave me but that he is no good to anyone and that he is just going to live out the rest of his life miserable and alone. We are separated now but keep in touch everyday. He has talked openly about his feelings and even came to me when he was thinking about "peacing out'. He refuses to see a therapist on the grounds that he hates those people. I thought that I had finally talked him into seeing his general practioner but now he is back to avoiding the issue. He desparately needsw help and I'm not sure how to proceed.