I'm a demiromantic to use a popular term. It means I basically do not have the type of bonding people do with the opposite or same sex to form a romantic union. It doesn't matter to me why I can't. I never missed it. I used as a young adult have this idea of a soulmate like a perfect friend. But I realized along the way there will be no one I can identify with and I am now OK with that. I have friendships and they run deep, and they are enough drama for me!

As far as romance goes, I have had fun going on some odd dates with crushes but I was always honest with them, that for me it is just a very temporary thing that never leads anywhere. My crushes are very short lived.

Also I fail to see the natural connection between romance and sexual feelings that other people see. I understand how people can have lust but I have no idea how that can be connected with romance. Myself I'm never lusting for anyone, that feels totally unnatural, like bestiality or something.

I think being aromantic and asexual can have different reasons. Sometimes people benefit from analyzing but sometimes not. For me I just accepted facts. I had a bit of a hard time when I was young understanding people were different. Actually, as a teen I thought people had families just out of tradition and force, I couldn't imagine people actually wanted that! I felt bad for them, LOL.