We don't usually have any contact during work. We work in a deparment store, and usually the only time we see each other is durring heavy sale periods when we're required to run a register (we aren't cashiers...). We've both put in for transfers into another department where we would be together most of the day (because this other dept. was of much greater interest to us both). I can see how this might cause some tension if we aren't able to work things out to understanding.

Why do I question whether it is a good idea to date her to begin with? I don't know if her treatment is working, if I can devote enough time to her, or whether I'm feel there is anything I can do to help her... and most importantly, if it all turns out to have a negative impact on my life.

What would happen if I gave it time? I'm afraid that she may get over her problems enough to start a relationship, and that it might not be with me.

I shuldn't be relying on you guys to make my decisions for me... it's just too hard though. it's the most complex situation i've ever been in.