((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))) for your pain, I wish I could help ease some of it...

I too have transitioned from being wife (that I valued) to ex-wife...from daughter,, from sister,,,from caregiver.. to me...

The lack of having a choice hurt a great deal in these transitions... because like everyone I want my "role" back..
A time of being lonely,,, and adrift...

Transition of my son to adulthood.. after losing the other "roles" was also very difficult...
More.. feeling adrift.. and trying to find a foothold..

So thru the last 5 years my T has worked with me and this is a little of what I see... of course I could mention the negative things... but he is teaching me to see the positive..

And after hanging in there... I am seeing a "me"...

1) a person... when married to an abusive man I
felt after 12 years as a non-person
2)loving
3) caring
4)compassionate
5) talkative..lol according to some... maybe could be less so
6) gullible - people do take advantage of this
7) wise about things I shouldn't even have to know about
8) humorous



sending (((((love)))) your way...fw