Addition: I didn't see if you were male or female when I was interpreting your dream. Since you are married, unless it is a same sex marriage, I presume you are female. (if you were a male or in a same sex marriage, it would depend on whether you were the boss, or the supporter or if you were equally balanced - which is hard to achieve in any scenario)

... anyway.... haha

Anyway, you can also look at the fact that you chose a male as a therapist as having meaning: Therapy = Danger / Danger = Change - Male + dominate or threat, Male = helpful toward change, Male = authority.... many things

But since you were shorter/on the ground it suggests that you consider male as dominant, and therapy as dominant and a path to change which can be dangerous.

Also, the male calling you closer and the table becoming prominent suggests that with males come judgement. (Not that they judge you, but you judge you with them).

When attacked the character changed image but not gender - again an indication that male gender is more dangerous to you.

I still stand by the fact that you are prepared to defend yourself although you cannot be certain of the outcome. I think this is healthy and honest. Also - if you did awaken yourself at that moment it seems the brain wants to be 1 of 3 things: 1. fully alert when attacked (good sign) 2. too traumatized by the suggestion of that much vulnerability to handle it anymore (need a lot of work). 3. Not huge emotional response, you just woke up without heart racing or a big emotion means the dream concluded and the lesson wasn't danger as much as you have a belief you are prepared, although you also see and understand threats exist.

The emotion you had when you awoke has meaning.

The emotion and self evaluation about how you viewed how you handled yourself also has meaning.

You were not pleased with yourself for not reacting to protect yourself. Mainly, I think you were reacting and protecting yourself but that part of the dream just wasn't important for your subconscious mind. "The Fight" you were looking for comes from your desire to see the story play out. Also, from your curiosity as to how you would do in a real fight. So, in my opinion - don't put too much judgement on the fact that 'the fight' didn't play out in the dream unless you woke up feeling terrified (#2 needs work).

Sorry if I said something here redundant. The human mind is so fascinating, I get caught up.