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Originally Posted by Ruari
It isn't fair. But that's why you deserve better. It isn't something against you or that you were a bad person, or that he is, it just...is.
I still am dealing with it, actually. I mean, I have mainly dealt with not talking to the guy anymore. Not having closure is really hard, and it would have been nice to have been able to talk like rational adults and just say, "Okay, this doesn't work, let's move on," but that takes two mature people. He couldn't do that, and if I'm honest, I don't know if I would have been a good candidate for that conversation. So things just hit a wall with our communication until he stopped communicating effectively, and I had to decide to let him. What I feel now is that he is probably grieving in his own way, that I'm not the only one hurt, and that's that.
Right now, my struggle is more with my own existence and loneliness. I don't really want to bore with that.
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Please, don't say that you bore people with it. That's why we are here, to help each other by sharing and receiving similar stories that can help us. I think you would have been, but as you say, if he doesn't want to be mature and say it..
How things go, it's really weird.
But I see good things coming out of it. I mean, we are here. we share, we hurt, we receive good words that help us move on.
Also, for me, it was the first time I hurt and shared with others. I told my mom today, I tried to be cool and said it all cool and with acceptance, but first I opened my mouth and I heard words coming out, I couldn't stop crying. I also shared with my friends, they were really supportive and I felt them hurting for me also. And my friends from his town to which am going to stay the next days during my business trip said that they are sorry and that they will take me to the seaside for the weekend to relax and enjoy the sun and the beach. And that if I want to cry, I can do that also.
Sure you saw some good things related to your hurting and beside him that happened to you.
I just learned that sharing is much way healthier than keeping to yourself and hurt alone.