Thanks Echo's, much appreciated. I just hope i can find the courage to show it to her! I was with previous T for six months and in some ways I see this new T as an extension of that in some way, though that has its own difficulties and has been something I have been trying to avoid but I can't seem to help it. It does have its benefits too though. I did a lot of looking to find a new T that was similar in many ways to old T though I can now see they are very different people and one will never be the other, but I think you are right, we are doing good work together.