" some abusers aren't aware their behaviour constitutes abuse...they know no other way of being. these ppl usually aren't receptive to therapy as in their mind they can do no wrong and nothing is wrong w/ how they are. to them all problems are w/ others and not themselves."

You just described one of my abuser.

To understand is already a step in the right direction. Thank you so much! (((((((((((zh))))))))))