Well...we both did that, heh.

He did say, "I am sorry I hurt you. I have malfunctioned in ways I do not like."

When I'm dealing with conflict, there going to be "you" statements which I find to be attacking, and then some which I take in stride. Especially if I already know them to be true. I'm not trying to stick up for him while taking all the blame--as my T says, I'm not completely at fault for not being able to maintain this relationship. But I'm trying to maintain objectivity. He's not a bad person. He liked me, and his goal in life wasn't to hurt me. He is and was, like me, acting out of his own relational fears. And I'm trying to back down from my crazy a little bit.