Hi, I'm looking for advice on how to improve the relationship between my stepdad and I, or how to get him to make him see that he is acting like a child. My biological father died 2 years ago and my mom moved in with my stepdad almost immediately after his death, so I was forced to live with him. I have NEVER liked him, he's egotistical, materialistic and thinks he's above others. He blatantly tries to exclude me from the family, especially at dinner time. Half the time I won't even know that we're eating dinner because he will refuse to invite me or even allow me to eat the dinner because he made it. He loves to call me names and will stick his neck out to argue with me or to insult me in any fashion and whenever I confront him about it, he manages to flip the situation to get my mom against me as well. He praises my little sister but will try his best to find any and all ways possible to belittle me. He absolutely hates me, the feeling is mutual. I have 3 more years at home before I move out and I cannot legally drive yet so I'm stuck at home. I cannot stand being around him without getting furious, I absolutely hate him and I would love to have a good relationship with him but that's almost impossible to do when he tries to find every single way possible to argue or blatantly be rude to me. Of course my mom doesn't seem to care, and when she does, it's about his side of things. I cannot stand being around him and looking at him makes me angry and I know that I shouldn't bite the hand that feeds me but I'm finding it awfully hard to find any ounce of respect for this man when he constantly excludes me as a member of the family and will always try to find ways in insult me. He loves loves loves to give me dirty looks and push my buttons purposefully and then act like I'm a total ***** when I get angry at him. Just the other day he was insulting me and pushing my buttons and getting me wound up, and he knew that I would get angry as a result, which I did, he then proceeded to tell me that something's wrong with me and that I'm an absolute ***** and etc... He also loves to tell me that there's something wrong with me and I'm a ****ing weirdo and that if I were his "real" kid he'd beat me, when I confront my mom about these things she says "Oh lighten up it's a joke" I cannot stand him and want this to stop.
Sorry for the awfully long post and also I apologize if this is in the wrong section, please redirect me if this is.