I'm onto my fifth therapist and I keep changing. Only been to two sessions. She seems nice and empathetic and listens to me well and I feel comfortable, there are just a few things I am unsure about her. Wondered if any of you could give an opinion if these things are valid.

She has a bit of a crazy look in her eyes, aren't all therapists a bit weird? I'm worried this craziness is going to become part of my psyche if I carry on treatment as we take on parts of our therapists during the treatment relationship, don't we?

Think id prefer someone who seems totally normal, but are any T's like this and also doesn't having to listen to some horrible tales make the T's this way? Is it unfair I judge her for this?

Another thing. My last 2 T's have made a big deal of the confidentiality agreement before commencing. When I enquired about having one after 1 session she said she didnt normally do it but if I wanted to she could make one up, but she doesnt have one written up already. Is this unusual?

And the last thing was at the last session I noticed the phone on the small table between us was off the hook and on the floor. I noticed this as I got up to leave and asked why it was off the hook. She said 'to stop it going off'. I dont really buy that though, I mean there are many other options, take the phone out at the socket beung one
Also it doesn't make sense as anyone who dialled the house would get an engaged tone.
To me it means whoever is in the house can listen in to our chat i.e her husband or whoever else is there at the time (I can hear someone in the house and its very quiet there which makes me self concious talking in general). I can understand this may be for her security as she's an older woman and I am a young male stranger who she knows nothing about. But this feels like a massive breach of trust and invasion on my privacy. On that basis I dont think I should go back. Its a shame. She offers emdr which I think could really help me and there arent many other therapists like that in my area.

How else that phone being like that be explained though? The fact its the one right next to where we sit. Or maybe I am being paranoid?

Any thoughts on what I can do next would be greatly appreciated. What do you make of the confidentiality agreement and the phone? I will have to approach the subject with her.

Thanks