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Originally Posted by velcro003
 x a million at your husband. i get why you are furious at him, but i have a feeling that he just doesn't get it. He must not struggle with self-esteem? That is the only thing i can think of, because self-doubt most defintely can be paralyzing, and just because your brother can somehow push through his self-doubt doesn't mean you are less than because you can't. Stupid H!
Please don't put your Self away and medicate and numb. You know that is taking major steps backward. Do you guys do couples counseling?
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No, we don't - I wish he would - but he refuses every time I ask.
Anyway I am glad I got this out of my system last night, I feel a lot better this morning and I am NOT going to let my Self go back to sleep. You're right that's major steps backwards and I'm not gonna do it. I have worked WAY too hard to get to where I am now to just give it up!! I just realized something - him wanting me to quit therapy and always 'suggesting' that I color my hair (because he doesn't like how it's turning grey) it's all the same thing. I am out-growing him and he knows it. I really don't think our marriage is going to survive unless he will go to marriage counseling with me and he steadfastly refuses to. But you know - that's on him. Not on me. I am feeling very warrior-like today in a good way and I am not going to let him push me back down. Our son is graduated now, he's 'cooked' like my t says, and won't be living with us much longer anyway. It's time for me to start thinking about the whole '**** or get off the pot' as far as my marriage is concerned I think....