Wow, that letter started out kind of nice, then got quite harsh. He's putting all the blame on you. It's completely normal for clients to get attached to their T's, have transference, etc. I'm guessing because he's a psychiatrist, maybe he doesn't have training in how to handle it, so he put up all those boundaries and tried to push you away? He should have just admitted he felt uncomfortable with working with you when you first talked about the transference instead of stringing you along. And it sounds like he's not giving you any referrals? I really thought they were ethically obligated to do that.

Please try to find a new T, maybe one through a clinic or that offers a sliding scale. Or I think some places offer free DBT groups? I also don't think CBT would be right for you, as T's that strictly practice that aren't usually good at dealing with transference either. I think you should try to find a psychodynamic (I think that's the right term!) or psychoanalytic T. Good luck...