"defying my authority as your physician." He sounds like a complete *** hole. All the stuff about being in a relationship with a needy woman is absolutely horrible. It seems to be completely his stuff and his lack of self awareness is staggering. I don't understand why he recommended a type of treatment but didn't refer you. (I agree with Lonesome that his suggestion of CBT might not be a good choice.)
I'm sorry you are hurting, as others have said it is for the best. How can you heal with a therapist like that.