Don't mean to be harsh but I agree with the dr. DBT and CBT would be good options for you plus as another poster said a female might be a better fit too. You do need to own some responsibility here. You were given a list of rules and decided not to follow then because it was too hard. It seems like he has an unstructured practice and that was not a good fit. I don't think blaming him or yourself is helpful. Just learn from the experience and move on using his recommendations so you don't fall into the same pattern and get hurt again.