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Originally Posted by Crocus
It is not the same thing if he says "you are being irritating" (=ascribing a negative characteristic to you) versus "I'm mad at you" (=informing you of how he is feeling at the moment). Even I know that and I know nothing about relationships - so hopefully a trained MC would pick up on that difference as well....
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That's a really good point. It's the difference between H saying "I'm feeling irritated by you" and "you're being irritating." MC often says that any feelings we have are valid and not right or wrong, it's about what we do with those feelings. But yeah, H saying I'm being irritating is not the same thing...(even if I most anyone would agree that I was being irritating!)