I am dating a widower. It is like he has two separate departments in his heart, one for his wife who passed on and his feelings of missing her, and one for me. I have my ex in my thoughts and heart all the time and in all ways, I don't mind the widower having another love in his heart. It is just that he makes his wife in to a saint the way he talks about her, I feel like I am doing naughty stuff in a church. I guess it must be creepy to have my ex popping up at all times and places too. Perhaps I will leave my dates feelings to be his feelings and let my past life be my business. It just takes me aback sometimes how both of us can feel happy and glad to see each other and be remembering our old partners at the same time.