Addictive behaviors, denial, lying, not making any serious effort to change despite promising to do so, hiding his phone and laptop from you and claiming that it is for your own good, treating you with disrespect, unable to discuss issues without anger or silence, blaming you for your utterly reasonable questions and desires, being untrustworthy, calling you names, making intimacy feel gross for you.

The above is what he is doing now and it will continue indefinitely unless he seeks help.

If the above (without dramatic change) does not add up to being a dealbreaker for you, I suggest that you ask yourself why it is not.

What sort of life together are you looking for and dreaming of, and how close is your current life together to the life you are looking for?

When are you planning to get married?