I feel your pain.. confusion.. owie....owie...

Echoes has such a good point...

I tackled my T on a similar issue because I was so hurt, offended, angry, and I could go on..
And I say I tackled.. it was just that I could hold it in - wasn't really a choice.. it just came pouring out... and out..

He at first did not "get it" (he was 10 mintues late.. sounds funny, but it was after a major traumatic event which he knew about and I had come an hour early so anxious was I.. and he is never, ever late - he went over with another patient). (I had told him any other time to be late would have been fine.. but not that day when he knew I needed him.)

We went around and around on that point... until he finally "got it"... and he genunially apologized.. he explained where he was coming from...

So.. for me it was worth it..if I had left it.. which I couldn't anyway.. it would have "festered"..

just my two cents...