I, too, am battling binge eating disorder (though I'm a little confused by that diagnosis because I cycle through phases of just binging, binging and purging, and just flat out starving myself for weeks/months at a time.) But I'm on Vyvanse now for both the ED and ADHD and it's helping a lot. I just wish the medication lasted for more than 5 hours tops.

I'm pretty sure it's quite rare to get kidney stones from Topamxax, especially if you're getting enough fluids. I've been on it twice at a relatively high dose and didn't watch my water intake at all and still didn't have any problems. I think Topamax might be one of those medications that you're supposed to get frequent blood tests for, though. So if that's the case, it might be worth going in to get labs done to make sure everything is where it should be.

Also, just a comment regarding hospice and end of life care (which was mentioned above)...I've worked in caregiving for elderly people for a long time, and I have the utmost respect for hospice providers. Believe me, when you're in "the business" long enough, you can start to literally smell death on someone who is dying, and you can sense when they've decided (even through the fog of dementia) that they are just plain done with life. And I don't think this is a bad thing, it's just the way things work. I've been a medication aid at an assisted living facility, and when we had individuals on the verge of death, low dose morphine and xanax were the gold standard for relieving the restlessness and pain that dying of an age related illness inevitably causes. I haven't personally witnessed a nurse or hospice provider "intentionally overdosing" someone with palliative medicine. So maybe I'm biased in their favor. But everyone dies, and I feel that there are good deaths and bad deaths. To me a good death is one in which the individual is with people who deeply love them, gets to say goodbye, and get to make their own decision about whether or not they want to continue in life. I'm not talking about assisted suicide (which is legal in my state, as it so happens, and in principle I think it's a good thing, but the logistics behind setting up and planning to have a doctor end their life are fraught with red tape. For instance, the individual has to obtain and pick up the prescription from the pharmacy by themselves. Many people who are near death cannot simply hop in a car and drive to the pharmacy. I could rant further on the matter, but this is not the place for that). I can certainly understand being protective of a loved one and wanting to keep them alive and well for as long as possible, but I think longevity of life means very little if quality of life is so poor that the extra months/years are not worth it, either financially, or, more importantly, with regard to things like dignity, self-efficacy, and independence. If an elderly person feels they have done enough in life, and that they are done (usually either by expressing this verbally, or if the individual suffers from dementia, by refusing food and drink) I think they should have a right to choose to leave life behind, and in cases when the individual lacks the capacity to choose, I choose to have faith that most hospice nurses/caregivers/doctors have the best and most objective and educated view on a person's needs and desires when it comes to the end of life. If the reason for wanting to die is due to something like mental illness which can be alleviated through treatment, that's a different matter. But overall, I view hospice workers and other caregivers as invaluable members of society who have a lot of heart and empathy and are generally worthy of our trust rather than being worthy of suspicion, resentment, and in extreme cases, accusations of murder. Aging is a complicated process (I should know, I'm doing a graduate degree in gerontology right now), but we know one thing for sure. It has an inevitable end--death. Does this have to be viewed as a bad thing? Can't there be good deaths too? Saying goodbye to a loved one is hard, but I for one would much rather say goodbye to my loved ones when they are still capable of saying goodbye back. Saying goodbye to an empty shell who can no longer understand that you love them, or express that they love you back, seems undignified and ultimately tragic to me.

These are just my thoughts on hospice and dying. I am not trying to say what happened to your mother was a good thing. Abuse is never a good thing. I just want to share another perspective on end of life care since it's something that I am very invested in.