i think she doesn't want to be on the meds? it could take a long time before she is baseline as i know from my own experience. i am a lifer on my meds, can't live without them. i don't know if this is a bad reply but it does seem like according to you she is blaming you. thats exactly what i did to my parents, but now that i am stable i don't see it that way anymore and am thankful they did.