Life doesn't magically get better. From my experience it takes work to get to a better place. Surrounding yourself with people you like and pushing away or distancing the ones who make life on you hard. Being invalidated is really hard. For me being invalidated led me to believe what I was feeling wasn't real and I just ended up getting angry and blaming myself for how I felt.

Maybe you can just tell him you are having a bad day when you are and there doesn't have to be a reason. It may help you to tell him what you want from him. Whether it is just someone to vent to or if your looking for comfort or whatever it is that he could or wants to do.

Normal is boring. At the end of the day I just have to be me with the ones I love. My wife may not always enjoy the low moments but there are also good ones. The more important part is that it is real and there is a genuine connection. I can't get that when I try to act or be a certain way because of others I'm around.

I'm sorry you have had to deal with this stuff. It's really hard and no one sees or understands it. You can message me if you want someone to talk to.