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May 29, 2016, 12:31 PM
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Member Since: May 2016
Location: Florida
Posts: 25
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I keep hearing about my therapists family, how much he loves his kids, and how easy that is for him. This touches a nerve with me, my parents didn't find it so easy to love me, and part of me wants the therapist to love me... I've mentioned before this hurts me, but it continues on. It's not that I don't want him to have a family and a happy life, it's that I want to do therapy and be happy myself, not be triggered by insensitive comments and precluded from feeling any sort of connection during a session because I'm re-experiencing the pain and anguish of feeling like an unloved child again.
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 Hi Petra
Some therapists' are very good at what they do and sometimes you don't realize that they are doing it.
Please follow my line of thinking for a bit
1. Your therapist knows you have resentment towards your parents. From your post here, that resentment still exists.
Perhaps, your therapist is trying to show you that not all families are created equal. Some are loving, and some by their own up bringing have no capacity to show love.
Without forcing the issue himself, perhaps your therapist understands the need for you to purge this resentment.
There is a big difference between venting with no resolution and cutting out the core of the pain in order to see it clearly for what it is, lack of a parent to have the ability to love.
Resentment and anger can be as deadly as cancer. It eats away and festers till it is removed.
There have been times when I was so busy feeling, I forgot I needed healing.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at begin to change.
I wish you good days ahead in finding contentment. 
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