I understand where you are coming from. I saw my T for 9 years from 1978-1987 and then another from 1996-2005. I got married in 1989 and it was a very big thing in my life. In 2005 as we were working on termination, my T was also retiring and a couple times she lost my checks. One of those times she was determined to pay me back for bank fees and wrote me a check and I look and it was in my maiden name. Nine years of giving her checks each week with mine and my husband's name on it and she can't remember my name (400+ checks)? A couple times in the last 9 years she called my husband by a wrong name :-)

We're not their friends. There's a saying I love, "Your therapy should be the most important thing in your life but it is not the most important thing in your therapist's life." I got over bad disconnects by remembering all the good connects and how well my T helped me. If you have been in school lately (or remember when you were) think of all your classes and teachers and homework assignments and how you can forget a book or assignment or what a particular teacher said just yesterday, etc. Conservatively, T's can have 4-5+ clients a day, 5-6 days a week so I'm sure it must get confusing at times and I can see the need for a Blackberry and how your T would get messed up? Remember the look of shock on his face; that would "save" him for me. If he'd looked at you "puzzled" that would have damned him :-)