Wants, sounds rather "crooked" to me, and clearly must be against Bylaws somewhere? I'd find me an outside lawyer (to go for me :-) to shake things up a bit and get the crooks out. You don't have any lawyer friends do you or other friends in the association who feel the way you do and could foot the bill or help front the opposition?

I wouldn't feel guilty about not going, you have your opinions and sounds like you're stating them quite well! Why do you have to go to a meeting just to not like an increase? What's to like about it if nothing seems to be improving.