Pink, I think in my case its that I still see part of T as an authority figure, someone not to get to close too. I'd not thought about the stranger angle. Hmmm, maybe the private life part of T is where I feel strange toward it. Yes I think thats it. Its strange to think she exists in a private life too, and I am also consious of not being seen to want to be involved in thath part of her, although in my fantasys I do, but I act very aloof around that, and do my best to avoid going anywhere near it, just incase she "see's" my longing, so I stay a stranger to a certain extent.