my mother was invasive / intrusive. i find it harder to build a good rapport / attachment / working alliance to females. that being said, it can be done, and i've had a good working relationship with a female therapist.

generally speaking... i prefer to work with guys. attachment comes quicker. a little bit of idealisation, yeah, but it facilitates a good working relationship. erotic attachment. my dad was always so far away... and i just longed to be closer.